We've had a Tesla as our family car for 3+ years now and our experience is exact opposite of everything you say.
The drive is incredibly smooth. Best car on the road I've ever driven. So agile and incredibly fast.
Zero maintenance, exc tires ... and 1x/yr cabin filter so the AC doesn't stink.
Tesla supercharger network is awesome, as long as you're not going to some remote area. We take our Tesla everywhere on long trips and it's a breeze. 20 min stops to charge after 300 miles and it's usually at a Panera, Dunkin, etc so we go bathroom, get a drink, and it's done.
Wife's fam lives in small town South GA, so visiting there ... we just charge in Macon on the way down/back ... and use the plug-in wall charger to top off while we sleep.
I heard the "Tesla insurance" rumors before we bought, but it's been total BS. Our family has 4 cars (F150, Jeep, etc) and the Tesla is by far the cheapest.
